Betrayal, a form of deception. If this trust is betrayed, at its worst, the individual can suffer psychological betrayal trauma. Betrayal trauma has symptoms similar to post traumatic stress disorder, although the element of amnesia and dissociation is likely to be greater.
SHATTERED, furious, resentful, heartbroken, numb, humiliated, rejected, hurt, and NOT SAFE– these are just some of the feelings we experience when we’ve been betrayed.
Unfortunately, betrayals appear to be on the rise. It helps to know that we are not alone as broken trust is a universal experience. The human need to belong and be part of a relationship makes us open and therefore vulnerable to these painful emotions.
Many people hear the word, "betrayal", and think of infidelity, yet the experience is actually much broader. Yes, the hurt feelings can result from a love betrayal, but the same symptoms can also be triggered by an unfaithful coworker or boss; betrayal in a friendship; disloyalty from a workplace, community, even country; the earth appearing to turn on us; or what is sometimes described as the ultimate betrayal - a loss of trust or faith in our relationship with “something bigger, something spiritual”. Regardless of the source, the emotional distress is often severe.
A friend knowingly breaks a confidence that causes hurt and loss of reputation; this is betrayal. A spouse professes love and loyalty while involved in an emotional affair outside the marriage; this is betrayal. A boss or organization pretends to be honest and fair while manipulating employees to exploit their talents; this is betrayal.
What do these examples of broken trust have in common?
· Personal and/or cultural expectations (understood by the betrayed as “The Truth”) are present.
· Based on these expectations, whole-hearted loyalty is given to another.
· "The Truth" is shattered; often due to someone making choices despite potential, major damage to the relationship.
· Shock and intense hurt feelings inevitably result.
SHATTERED, furious, resentful, heartbroken, numb, humiliated, rejected, hurt, and NOT SAFE– these are just some of the feelings we experience when we’ve been betrayed.
Unfortunately, betrayals appear to be on the rise. It helps to know that we are not alone as broken trust is a universal experience. The human need to belong and be part of a relationship makes us open and therefore vulnerable to these painful emotions.
Many people hear the word, "betrayal", and think of infidelity, yet the experience is actually much broader. Yes, the hurt feelings can result from a love betrayal, but the same symptoms can also be triggered by an unfaithful coworker or boss; betrayal in a friendship; disloyalty from a workplace, community, even country; the earth appearing to turn on us; or what is sometimes described as the ultimate betrayal - a loss of trust or faith in our relationship with “something bigger, something spiritual”. Regardless of the source, the emotional distress is often severe.
A friend knowingly breaks a confidence that causes hurt and loss of reputation; this is betrayal. A spouse professes love and loyalty while involved in an emotional affair outside the marriage; this is betrayal. A boss or organization pretends to be honest and fair while manipulating employees to exploit their talents; this is betrayal.
What do these examples of broken trust have in common?
· Personal and/or cultural expectations (understood by the betrayed as “The Truth”) are present.
· Based on these expectations, whole-hearted loyalty is given to another.
· "The Truth" is shattered; often due to someone making choices despite potential, major damage to the relationship.
· Shock and intense hurt feelings inevitably result.
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Betrayal always hurt. I don't like the word itself and the meaning. I think everyone has suffered some sort of betrayal during their lives. The feelings that accompany betrayal, are painful. and you lose all trust you had towards the person(s) who betrayed you.
There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world; it’s the beginning of a new life.
So sometimes the one who betrayed you you should let the person go as if he/she was never meant for you.
Today I am amazed at the things our children have done and their
wide range of interests. They are all living their lives and not the
ones I would have planned for them. But I have learned that their
lives are theirs, not mine, and in living their own lives they have
given me experiences and an education I would never have had if
I’d been fool enough to make them do what I thought they should do.
Betrayal is not only from your lover but it also comes form your children.
We find by losing. We hold fast
by letting go. We become something
new by ceasing to be something old.
This seems to be close to the heart
of that mystery. I know no more now
than I ever did about the far side of
death as the last letting-go of all,
but now I know that I do not need
to know, and that I do not need
to be afraid of not knowing.
God knows. That is all that matters.
Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing
you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is
not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing
which keeps you from hope and love?
We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned,
so as to accept the life that is waiting for us. Maybe when letting go the one who betrayed you ...you can get someone much more better.
Betrayal hurts as Reploid said and I suferred that. When my husband betrayed me two years ago with a woman younger than me. But then i prefered to simply let go because he was never mine...Letting go doesn't mean we don't care. Letting go doesn't mean we shut down.
Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave.
It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment.
It means we stop trying to do the impossible--controlling that which
we cannot--and instead, focus on what is possible--which usually means
taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness,
and love, as much as possible.
My father once told me of a trick question he used in a college class
on forest fire control. If there was a fire coming from a certain
direction and wind was coming from another, what was the best
thing to do? The right answer was, "Run like hell and pray
for rain," but few students ever got it. So allow yourself the
freedom of knowing there are times to bail out, quit, run,
leave the struggle, and have more time for joy.
The Tao Te Ching says, When I let go of what I am,
I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have,
I receive what I need. Have you ever struggled to find
work or love, only to find them after you have given up?
This is the paradox of letting go. Let go, in order
to achieve. Letting go is God's law.
Trying creates impossibilities,
letting go creates what is desired.
We must learn to let go, to give up, to make room for the things we have prayed for and desired.
As I started to picture the trees in the storm,
the answer began to dawn on me. The trees in the
storm don't try to stand up straight and tall and
erect. They allow themselves to bend and be blown
with the wind. They understand the power of
letting go. Those trees and those branches that
try too hard to stand up strong and straight are
the ones that break. Now is not the time for you
to be strong, Julia, or you, too, will break.
People have a hard time letting go of their suffering.
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.
Our fear is even stronger when
we think we are responsible
for others--our children,
for example. We want
to spare them pain, and
so we forget to listen to
the Sound of Creation.
No one learns from
someone else's mistake.
If we respect others, we
must recognize that they
have a right to their own
dance. Their own spirits
will guide them.
Healthy mysticism praises acts of letting go, of being emptied, of getting
in touch with the space inside and expanding this until it merges with the
space outside. Space meeting space; empty pouring into empty. Births
happen from that encounter with emptiness, nothingness. . . . Let us not
fight emptiness and nothingness, but allow it to penetrate us even as we penetrate it.
One wears one's mind out in study, and yet has more mind
with which to study. One gives away one's heart in love
and yet has more heart to give away. One perishes out of pity
for a suffering world, and is stronger therefore.
In the end these things matter most:
How well did you love?
How fully did you love?
How deeply did you learn to let go?
Consider the trees which allow the birds to perch and fly away without either
inviting them to stay or desiring them never to depart. If your heart can be
like this, you will be near to the way.
The clouds above us come together and disperse;
The breeze in the courtyard departs and returns.
Life is like that, so why not relax?
Who can keep us from celebrating?
The greatest thing is, at any moment, to be willing
to give up who we are in order to become all that we can be.
I surrender my anxiety and my sense of urgency. I allow God to guide me
in the pacing of my life. I open my heart to God's timing. I release my deadlines,
agendas, and stridency to the gentle yet often swift pacing of God. As I open
my heart to God's unfoldings, my heart attains peace. As I relax into God's timing,
my heart contains comfort. As I allow God to set the tone and schedule of my days,
I find myself in the right time and place, open and available to God's opportunities.
I suffered a lot and now I have chosen to do not suffer at all.
We believe that it is difficult to let go, but in truth, it is much more difficult
and painful to hold and protect. Reflect upon anything in your life that you
grasp hold of--an opinion, a historical resentment, an ambition, or an unfulfilled
fantasy. Sense the tightness, fear, and defensiveness that surrounds the
grasping. It is a painful, anxious experience of unhappiness. We do not
let go in order to make ourselves impoverished or bereft.
We let go in order to discover happiness and peace. I also prefered to forget my love for him and to stop suffering so much. I kept crying but now No more..
Once we see that everything is impermanent and ungraspable
and that we create a huge amount of suffering if we are
attached to things staying the same, we realize that
relaxing and letting go is a wiser way to live. Letting
go does not mean not caring about things. It means
caring about them in a flexible and wise way.
Doesn't the lack of trust lead to suspicion and cynicism? Don't we lose a great deal of our so-called innocence when we reject trust? Well, yes and no to all of those questions.
Trust is a wonderful ideal, but what concerns me is the tendency among many people to put too much trust in other people, or trust in the wrong people. Both actions lead to extremely negative results that can affect one's own self-esteem and perspective of life. Another damaging aspect of trust is how we feel about ourselves and our lives after our trust has been betrayed. This idea may fit better on a page called "betrayal," but betrayal is something that others do to us, not something that we have control over. We have control over the level of trust we put in someone and over the way we react when that trust has been betrayed.
When we entrust too much to another person, we face several risks. First of all, we may become too dependent on that other person, and we may start to feel a diminished sense of trust in ourselves. We've put such a huge part of our own burden on someone else that we may lose our own ability to deal with that burden. What happens if that other person leaves? What do we do then? We either have to pick up everything where it was left, or we have to shift our trust to someone else, who may or may not deserve to have it, which is a very stressful situation.
Entrusting too much to another person also puts a huge burden on that other person, and he or she may start to feel overwhelmed with the responsibility of another person's burdens. If that happens, it will become difficult for that person to continue to carry so much trust, and he or she may end up betraying or trust or rejecting it completely. In any case, as soon as our trust passes a certain level, it becomes a burden to someone else. Such a burden is very easy to reject or betray, especially as time wears on. We end up setting ourselves up for huge problems.
More importantly, though, as an obstacle to a happy life, putting our trust in the wrong people can be quite devastating. As an example, we recently were in the market for a new car. We checked out a few on-line car markets, and two days later got a phone call from a local dealer that had been notified an on-line market that we were interested in purchasing a car. We told the salesman that we wanted only to look, and he said fine, come on in. So we went.
Of course, not too many people trust car salespeople to begin with, but I hate blindly agreeing with stereotypes, and I wanted to trust him. But this guy proved that the stereotype is often an earned one. He did everything to build trust, giving us the keys and telling us to take our time, "proving" his trust in us. He asked about the family and tried to be real personal. Within an hour, though, he had a contract written up and wanted us to sign on the bottom line. We refused, and he told us that another salesperson had a customer who was interested in the same vehicle, and it might not be there in a couple of days. We left. Two weeks later, we drove by the lot in the new car we had bought elsewhere and saw the other car still there. We also found out later that he had overstated the amount of the trade-in allowance they had given, virtually lying about the amounts. We ended up paying $80 a month less for the same car with someone who sat down with us, explained all the numbers and options, and allowed us to take our time.
If we had trusted the first man, we would have been stuck with payments that were far too high for us. We also would have been ripped off, and the car would have become something different to us, more of an overpriced problem than the reliable vehicle that we needed.
But that's a very typical example. What happens when we trust a best friend to keep a secret for us, and that best friend tells others what we didn't want them to tell? And if we trust someone to do something for us while we're on vacation, and that someone doesn't do what we asked? Or what about trusting someone to show up on time and have them get there an hour late, ruining an afternoon or evening, because now the place you wanted to go to is far too crowded to get into?
None of these are unrealistic situations, but in each case, we're the ones who now have to deal with unpleasant situations because we've entrusted something important to someone else. We face anger, resentment, frustration, and many other negative feelings simply because of another's actions. It's very hard not to take such problems personally, too, and once we do that, it's pretty much a given that we're going to be down or angry for a while.
So what do we do? Basically, there's only one workable response to someone who's violated our trust: forgiveness. But we also have to take a lesson from the situation, and learn that we need to be very careful where we put our trust, for as soon as we put our trust in another, we set ourselves up for potential disappointment and harm. We have to trust, for if we don't, we become callous, cold, cynical individuals. But we have to trust the right people, and we have to entrust the right things to them. It's always our call, even though we later may want to shift the blame to the other person.
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
One day he was repairing the light fixture in the bathroom. He asked me
to hold one of his hands and to grip the faucet of the bathtub with
my other hand. I did this. Then he licked the index finger of his
free hand and stuck it up into the empty socket where the light bulb
had been. As the electricity passed through him and into me and through me
and was grounded in the faucet of the bathtub, my father kept saying,
“Pal, I won’t hurt you. I won’t hurt you.” If I had let go of the faucet,
both of us would have died. If I had let go of his hand, he would have died.
Remember always that there are two things which are more utterly
incompatible even than oil and water, and these two are
trust and worry. Can you call it trust, when you have given the
saving and keeping of your soul into the hands of God, if day
after day you are spending hours of anxious thought and
questionings about the matter? When believers really trust
anything, they cease to worry about the thing they have trusted.
Trust each other and do no harm to each other.
To laugh often and much;
to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
to earn the appreciation of honest criticism
and endure the betrayal of false friends;
to appreciate beauty and find the best in others;
to leave this world a bit better whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch, a redeemed social condition;
to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived--
this is to have succeeded.
4 most common signs of cheating:
1. Suspicious cell phone behavior. Perhaps your partner has been hiding their cell phone, or quickly ducking into another room to take phone calls?
2. Smelling of another person's perfume or cologne. Noticed this? Or has your partner suddenly started doing their own laundry at strange hours?
3. Popping out at strange hours. Perhaps working late nights when they didn't use to? Or going to see some friend that you've never heard of?
4. Their internet history constantly being deleted and suspicious behavior when checking email and during online chatting.
"I'd had my suspicions for quite some time, that my wife was having an affair with her boss. However I didn't have any idea how I could prove it for sure, I mean I didn't want her to know I didn't trust her in case I was wrong. I discovered that she was having an affair and it had been going on for longer than I thought. Not sure what I'm going to do now, but I'm glad I know.
People's actions are the picture book of their creeds.
Always keep an eye on your partner.
We take care of our health, we lay up money,
we make our room tight, and our clothing sufficient;
but who provides wisely that he or she shall not be wanting
in the best property of all--friends?
If someone is bebd to betray you he/she will do that no matter how much you care for that person. I hate being betrayed.
Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with your old nonsense. This day is all that is good and fair.
It is too dear, with its hopes and invitations, to waste a moment on yesterdays.Forget everything and start afresh though not easy everytime.
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine.
The happiest person is the one who learns from nature the lesson of worship.
I am sure you and Reploid will never betray each other as your love is even known through the internet now.
People are timid and apologetic; they are no longer upright;
they dare not say "I think," "I am," but quote some sage or saint.
They are ashamed before the blade of grass or the blowing rose.
These roses under my window make no reference to former roses or to better ones;
they are for what they are; they exist with God to-day.
People who betray theirs partner will surely suffer before dying.
What I do is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule,
equally arduous in actual and intellectual life, may serve for the whole
distinction between greatness and meanness. It is the harder, because
you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better
than you know it. It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion;
it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great person is the one who
in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.
Wherever snow falls, or water flows, or birds fly, wherever day and night meet in twilight,
wherever the blue heaven is hung by clouds, or sown with stars, wherever are forms
with transparent boundaries, wherever are outlets into celestial space,
wherever is danger, and awe, and love, there is Beauty, plenteous as rain, shed for thee,
and though thou shouldest walk the world over,
thou shalt not be able to find a condition inopportune or ignoble.
Don't waste time waiting for those who never care for you. Always remember my words.
To fill the hour,--that is happiness; to fill the hour, and leave no crevice for a repentance or an approval. . . .
To finish the moment, to find the journey's end in every step of the road,
to live the greatest number of good hours, is wisdom. . . . Since our office is with moments,
let us husband them. Five minutes of to-day are worth as much to me,
as five minutes in the next millennium. Let us be poised, and wise,
and our own, to-day. Let us treat the men and women well:
treat them as if they were real: perhaps they are.
am thankful for small mercies. I compared notes with one of my friends
who expects everything of the universe, and is disappointed
when anything is less than the best, and I found that I begin
at the other extreme, expecting nothing,
and am always full of thanks for moderate goods. Don't remain complicated when someone has complicated your life with somone else.
Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong.
There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right.
To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires. . . courage.
All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.
Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself.
Go forward and make your dreams come true.Don't stop for those who were never yours.
If you suspect that your partner is cheating on you, the person you have given so much of yourself to, the person you have loved so unselfishly and sacrificed so much for, the person you stood by when anyone else would have left, then this could be the most important message you will ever read.
Let me explain.
You do not need to spend another night lying awake in bed waiting for them to come home, unable to escape the sickening thoughts of where your lover could be, who they could be with and what intimate things they might be doing to each other.
You do not need to go weeks on end without making love or endure the gut-wrenching pain of longing for them to “touch you like they used to”, while they seem to do everything in their power to hurt and ignore you.
You do not need to put up with their endless lies and excuses or endure the vicious emotional abuse that makes you feel like you never meant a damn thing to them.
Fuck off with them. And start afresh showing him/her that you are more brave than he/she thought.
It is not death that we
should fear, but we
should fear never
beginning to live.
I still remember the betrayal of my husband and I think I will never forget that...
If you have known how
to compose your life,
you have done a great
deal more than the
person who knows how
to compose a book.
You have done more
than the one who has
taken cities and empires.
Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery that it is. In the boredom
and pain of it no less than in the excitement and gladness: touch, taste, smell your way
to the holy and hidden heart of it because in the last analysis all moments
are key moments, and life itself is grace.
The end is nothing;
the road is all.
How vain it is to sit down and write
if you have not stood up to live.
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing
To keep our faces toward change and behave
like free spirits in the presence
of fate is strength undefeatable.
God asks no person whether he or she will accept life.
That is not the choice.
You must take it.
The only choice is how. How to forget my husband's betrayal? I just hate him a lot now.
No one ever said that marriage was going to be easy, and if they did, they were lying. It is completely normal in a marriage to have disagreements and for there to be times when things involve a little more effort.
In a perfect world we could sit down and talk about these differences in a calm and rational manner. Unfortunately things do not always work that way. It is all too easy to get caught up in the moment and let things worsen to the point where you are both wondering why you are still in it.
However why strive so hard when one is bound to betray his/her partner later.
Life is difficult. This is a great truth,
one of the greatest truths. It is
a great truth because once we truly
see this truth, we transcend it. Once
we truly know that life is difficult--once
we truly understand and accept it--then life is
no longer difficult. Because once
it is accepted, the fact that life is
difficult no longer matters.
Time is a flowing river.
Happy those who allow themselves
to be carried, unresisting, with the current.
They float through easy days.
They live, unquestioning, in the moment.
If you're grieving and you can't get over it, try to figure out what that second emotion is, and try to deal with that. Let the grief do its work without sabotaging it, and deal with any other emotions on their own terms. Are you feeling guilty because you didn't visit your mother enough during her last months? Then deal with the guilt separately--there's no changing what you've done in the past, so resolve to be more attentive in the future. Or sit down and make a list of the many commitments you had during that time, and see if you realistically could have visited much more. Be honest, and be fair, both with yourself and the situation. If you could have gone more, then deal with that in the future--life will give you ways to make amends for past mistakes. Life's really good at that, but we have to keep our eyes and hearts open.
When I die, I hope that no one grieves--I hope they celebrate the fact that I've moved on to a much better place. I hope to have my wake while I'm still alive, so that I can enjoy the food and the company. I don't want grief to darken one person's day--I hope it will brighten their lives by allowing them to move on with the process of living the wonderful lives we've been given with only an occasional glance back, with a smile at the memories.
Please don't let the combination of grief and something else consume you. Let grief free you, and deal with any other feelings separately. Those who love you want you to see the world brightly, not darkly.
The day had come. I'd lasted as long as I could in my marriage. Once my husband, Bill, left for work, I packed a bag for myself and our 14-month-old son and left our home. It was the only year in our married life when we lived in the same town as my parents. Obviously the convenience of being able to run to Mom and Dad made my decision to leave Bill easier.
With a tear-stained, angry face, I walked into Mom's kitchen. She held the baby while I sobbed my declaration of independence. After washing my face and sipping a cup of coffee, Mom told me she and Dad would help me. They'd be there for me, which brought me great comfort.
"But before you leave Bill," she said, "I have one task for you to complete."
Mom put down my sleeping son, took a pen and sheet of paper, and drew a vertical line down the middle of the page. She told me to list in the left column all the things Bill did that made him impossible to live with. As I looked at the dividing line, I thought she'd then tell me to list all his good qualities on the right-hand side. I was determined to have a longer list of bad qualities on the left. This is going to be easy, I thought. I started immediately to scribble down the left column.
Bill never picked his clothes off the floor. He never told me when he was going outside. He slept in church. He had embarrassing, nasty habits such as blowing his nose or belching at the dinner table. He never bought me nice presents. He refused to match his clothes. He was tight with money. He wouldn't help with the housework. He didn't talk with me.
The list went on and on, until I'd filled the page. I certainly had more than enough evidence to prove that no woman would be able to live with this man.
Smugly I said, "Now I guess you're going to ask me to list all Bill's good qualities on the right side."
"No," Mom said. "I already know Bill's good qualities. Instead, for each item on the left side, I want you to write how you respond. What do you do?"
This was even tougher. I'd been thinking about Bill's few, good qualities I could list. I hadn't considered thinking about myself. I knew Mom wasn't going to let me get by without completing her assignment. So I had to start writing.
I'd pout, cry, and get angry. I'd be embarrassed to be with him. I'd act like a "martyr." I'd wish I'd married someone else. I'd give him the silent treatment. I'd feel I was too good for him. The list seemed endless.
When I reached the bottom of the page, Mom picked up the paper and went to the drawer. She took scissors and cut the paper down the vertical line. Taking the left column, she wadded it in her hand and tossed it into the trash. Then she handed me the right column with the list of my reactions.
All she wanted to say was to forget him and start afresh.
There are loyal hearts, there are spirits brave,
There are souls that are pure and true;
Then give to the world the best you have,
And the best will come back to you.
Life is beautiful to whomsoever will think beautiful thoughts. There are no common people but they who think commonly and without imagination or beauty.
Such are dull enough.
If our lives shall be such that
we shall receive the glad welcome of
"Well done, good and faithful servant,"
we shall then know that
we have not lived in vain.
If you're like many women between the ages of 20 and say, 90, you regularly find things about men that perplex and exasperate you. While you may know the apostle Paul challenges us to "be patient, bearing with one another in love" (Ephesians 4:2), Paul doesn't live in your house with that man.
Through 15 years of marriage, we've had our share of vexing moments. More than once, one of us (who shall remain nameless) obsessed about a televised sporting event while the other asked a simple question about home décor. This led to less-than-constructive "interchanges" about the relative merits of spectator sports and "real life." These events—and others involving more volatile topics such as sex, career decisions, and parenting—only highlight the differences between men and women.
So as co-leaders of a church group designed for newly married couples, we decided to informally survey the women in our ministry. We asked them to tell us what puzzled them, frustrated them, and confused them about their husband.
I wish you humor and a twinkle in the eye.
I wish you glory and the strength to bear its burdens.
I wish you sunshine on your path and storms to season your journey.
I wish you peace--in the world in which you live and in the smallest corner
of the heart where truth is kept.
I wish you faith--to help define your living and your life.
More I cannot wish you--except perhaps love--to make all the rest worthwhile.
Betrayal is really hard to overcome..Because by the end of the day, you end up feeling hurt..And several question keep crossing your mind..For me its usually " Is it worth to trust people, if in the end you'll end up getting hurt? "
Its difficult to really trust other people then..You keep thinking whether you are commiting the same mistake all over again..And this doubt keep you from moving forward..
Forgiveness has become a buzzword, but people still don’t understand it. They don’t realize its rewards—or the cost of refusing to forgive. Many think forgiving means excusing, forgetting, or ignoring their pain. They view it as weakness. Why Forgive? brings together survivors of crime, betrayal, bigotry, and abuse—and ordinary men and women plagued by everyday strife. Not all are ready to forgive. But all are determined not to let anger, bitterness, and despair control their lives. Together, their stories will challenge and encourage others wherever they are on the road to healing
I hate the word and I just hope it does not come and knock at our door.
I accept that sometimes its really difficult to cope with betrayal but if we continue to think about that then I don't think we can progress a lot in life.
the thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen.
Approach each new relationship with an open mind; every person is different.
"Many are influenced by their past experience when dealing with new individuals. This matter would often result in crystal-clear failure."
Timing is the key in life....
"good timing to find the job you like, good timing to be with the man you like, good timing to meet the people you like! ( mixed with luck)!
Where are you these days. We are not hearing of you at all ;-(
Feelings are much like waves. We can't keep them from coming, but we can choose which one to surf...
Understanding & good communication is the key to every successful relationship
"When the fire of passion cools down with time, it's what'll keep you going."
There are a thousand Paths to every Right and even more to every Wrong!
"People who want to do good would do it anyway, and People who want to do bad would find even more ways,"
one old nice and romantic memory can make someone's day.
"It can bring back to u the whole nice time u spent with the nice loving ppl u had the time with , it also can remind u every nice words , warm smiles , romantic music , beautiful places and how hearts was dancing and hoping "
self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.
believing in the impossible will help you stretch beyond your normal limits.
Be passionate about everything you do..
To betray is the worse thing to do with someone.
An interesting post !!
We can not avoid betrayal as long as we still live in this world.
Perhaps the essay of questions and answers below will make a sense:
Human: I asked Lord to do away of my vices.
Lord : They are not there for me to take them away. They are there for you to resist them.
Human: I asked Lord to give me patience.
Lord : Patience is a byproduct (side products) of difficulties. It is not given but learned.
I accept that sometimes its really difficult to cope with betrayal but if we continue to think about that then I don't think we can progress a lot in life.
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