Mistake In Life

Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new...

Anger and Love

Indeed I find that both Anger and Love have no limits at all thus we should be able to learn how to control both feelings to have a balanced life surrounded by relationships.

Health

Invest in your health - the best investment ever!!

 
"I notice people are more concerned with their possessions, insuring them, looking after their new cars, new toys, yet do nothing for the No 1 most important thing in their life - their body. Once we lose our health it's gone, not replaceable, possessions are!"

Secrets

Never share your secrets with anybody. 

                  If you cannot keep secret with you, don't expect that other will keep it.
"It will destroy you."

Control

It seems to be a part of human nature for us to want to control situations in our lives and the lives of others. After all, we want to be helpful, to help others by making sure that situations work out well for all involved. And sometimes it seems to us that the only way that we can make things turn out okay is by taking over and controlling that situation ourselves.

I see parents do it with their kids in college: by calling their kid every day and "checking in on them," they make their presenceand their expectations--constantly clear. That's supposed to "motivate" the kid. Other parents try to give advice on every topic under the sun to their kids, fully expecting the children to follow that advice to the letter. This is called micromanaging, though, and it's usually more indicative of the parent's fear of failing the other person than it is of the kid's need for such constant input.

We simply fear being out of control. We fear watching things and events spiral out of control, harming us and those people we love. We fear facing a situation in which we have no control, and we fear situations reaching that point, so we try to "make sure" that nothing in our lives ever gets that far.

This fear, though, comes from a lack of confidence or faith in life and in God, whatever you perceive God to be. Life has been going on for many, many years without our input, and it's been going along fine. In fact, it seems clear that life has a harder time doing its thing the more we interfere with it. We're not willing to let the river flow as it will--we want to make sure that we control the amount of water that's flowing, the direction in which it flows, and when it stops and starts flowing. If we can do that, we can make sure that the river never will overflow its banks, and we can be sure that no one will be hurt by the river.

Trying to control life is a losing battle from the beginning. It's important that we step back and see whether our influence (not control) may be helpful or useful in a given situation, but if we constantly try to make sure that everything turns out fine, we will fail time and time again. Isn't it important to use our strength and power in situations in which we truly do have influence (in our jobs and relationships, for example, focused on our own actions) rather than in ways that are doomed to be wastes of that energy?

Karma

The laws of karma and reincarnation are man made and wretched.
If you travel to places in the world where people truly believe, you will find the true nature of it and how it holds people in it's grip.
Take for example a person that has caused much destruction - Hitler, for example, as his name always comes up. Karma and reincarnation teaches that upon his death, the bad karma he accumulated goes on into another life but the recipient has no idea of the weight they are carrying. Hitler's soul could be reincarnated into another person, animal or insect. There are some people that wear mouth and nose coverings to avoid breathing someone in. (I'm not joking.)
In countries where karma rules the day and homeless children roam the street, other citizens do nothing to help them. Not because they are cruel but because the child has accumulated bad karma and they believe the sooner the child dies he can begin again. I saw a news article a few years back about a heartbroken mother that had lost her 13 year son to an early death. Just after the funeral, an iguana walked into her home. The photo showed her with tears rolling down her face as she held it - because she was convinced it was her son reincarnated.
I strongly suggest the book by Ravi Zacharais called "Jesus Among Other Gods". He was raised in India and has a clear understanding of these things - and he takes strong offense to the tripe dished out by Deepak Chopra.

Betrayal

Betrayal, a form of deception. If this trust is betrayed, at its worst, the individual can suffer psychological betrayal trauma. Betrayal trauma has symptoms similar to post traumatic stress disorder, although the element of amnesia and dissociation is likely to be greater.

SHATTERED, furious, resentful, heartbroken, numb, humiliated, rejected, hurt, and NOT SAFE– these are just some of the feelings we experience when we’ve been betrayed.

Unfortunately, betrayals appear to be on the rise. It helps to know that we are not alone as broken trust is a universal experience. The human need to belong and be part of a relationship makes us open and therefore vulnerable to these painful emotions.

Many people hear the word, "betrayal", and think of infidelity, yet the experience is actually much broader. Yes, the hurt feelings can result from a love betrayal, but the same symptoms can also be triggered by an unfaithful coworker or boss; betrayal in a friendship; disloyalty from a workplace, community, even country; the earth appearing to turn on us; or what is sometimes described as the ultimate betrayal - a loss of trust or faith in our relationship with “something bigger, something spiritual”. Regardless of the source, the emotional distress is often severe.

A friend knowingly breaks a confidence that causes hurt and loss of reputation; this is betrayal. A spouse professes love and loyalty while involved in an emotional affair outside the marriage; this is betrayal. A boss or organization pretends to be honest and fair while manipulating employees to exploit their talents; this is betrayal.

What do these examples of broken trust have in common?

· Personal and/or cultural expectations (understood by the betrayed as “The Truth”) are present.

· Based on these expectations, whole-hearted loyalty is given to another.

· "The Truth" is shattered; often due to someone making choices despite potential, major damage to the relationship.

· Shock and intense hurt feelings inevitably result.

Marriages

A great marriage is not when the"perfect couple" comes together

It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

A daily dose of four kisses, three cuddles and one "I love you" may help keep a relationship alive, a survey has revealed.

Partners should also have a two-year age gap, share two hobbies and have sex three times a week, the Confetti.co.uk poll found.

Other secrets to a lasting liaison include two romantic meals a month, three nights of the week cuddling on the sofa together, regular contact, two surprise weekends away every year, one annual foreign holiday and two UK breaks, says The Daily Telegraph.

Researchers also found that two separate nights out with friends a month are advised to ensure some independence, and that the longest lasting relationships involve people who met through friends and who married after being together for three-and-a-half years.More than 3,000 married adults took part in the poll, which found that a man should ideally be two years and three months older than his partner.

John M. Gottman, a researcher, said his team found that there basically are three types of stable marriages.

The first is a husband and wife who routinely avoids conflict. When a difference of opinion arises, said Gottman, "they will never argue. They will listen to the other, but will not try to persuade." Such marriages, which he calls the "avoiders," may be unemotional and distant, but they endure.

A second type is a volatile relationship "like two lawyers in a courtroom," said Gottman. "They can argue at the drop of a hat. They are the Bickersons," he said. Such marriages tend to last even though there are frequent and impassioned arguments.

The third type of stable marriage Gottman calls the "validating" couple. They listen to each other, respect the other's opinion and only occasionally argue. "They pick the issues they fight about," he said.

Trouble in marriages comes when the couples are a mix of personalities that do not mesh in resolving conflicts. For instance, a husband who is a volatile arguer married to a wife who is an "avoider", or one who flees from disagreement, may be in marital trouble, he said.

Discouragement.

Everyone will have their share of discouragement at some point in their lifetime.

Discouragement happens in all areas of life. An employee puts in his best to ensure his department achieves success, only to get a damaging response instead of a good appraisal from his superior. A woman’s marriage dreams end when her husband is unfaithful. She truly feels the pangs of discouragement. A couple suffers their second miscarriage while trying to create a family. These people all deal with discouragement differently, but some may become so discouraged, so distressed and as a result may attempt to take their own lives.

The root word of discouragement is courage so it should only make sense that the feelings associated with failure and rejection often try to deal a blow to your inner source of courage. Unfortunately, these emotions can cripple you to the point where you avoid taking small risks that have huge potential rewards.Life is full of failures, rejection and more than a fair share of discouragement. I believe that the difference in how persistent people are often comes down to how they handle the discouragement that comes from the same situation. While some people can immediately brush themselves off, others can enter a negative cycle of thoughts that persists for weeks, months or even years.

"Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. "Dale Carnegie

"Defeat should never be a source of discouragement, but rather a fresh stimulus." Bishop Robert South

Homosexuality

Homosexuality refers to sexual behavior or attraction between people of the same sex or to homosexual orientation . As a sexual orientation , homosexuality refers to "having sexual and romantic attraction primarily or exclusively to members of one’s own sex"

Many lesbians and gay men form durable relationships. For example, survey data indicate that between 18% and 28% of gay couples and between 8% and 21% of lesbian couples in the U.S. have lived together 10 or more years.

In many cultures, homosexual people are frequently subject to prejudice and discrimination. Like many other minority groups that are the objects of prejudice, they are also subject to stereotyping. Gay men are seen as effeminate and fashionable, often identified with a lisp or a female-like tone and lilt.

Research suggests they develop enduring romantic relationships. Gay men are also often alleged as having pedophilic tendencies and more likely to commit child sexual abuse than the heterosexual male population, a view rejected by mainstream psychiatric groups and contradicted by research.

Claims that there is scientific evidence to support an association between being gay and being a pedophile are based on misuses of those terms and misrepresentation of the actual evidence. Lesbians are seen as butch, and sometimes "man-haters" or radical feminists.

In these sixteen countries, Homosexuality is punishable by either Death or Life Imprisonment.
Afghanistan - Death Penalty
Pakistan - Life Imprisonment
Uganda - Life Imprisonment
Somalia - Death Penalty
India - Life Imprisonment
Iran - Death Penalty
Sierra Leone - Life Imprisonment
Myanmar - Life Imprisonment
Sudan - Death Penalty
Yemen - Death Penalty
Bangladesh - Life Imprisonment
Nigeria - Death Penalty
Mauritania - Death Penalty
Saudi Arabia - Death Penalty
Qatar - Death Penalty
United Arab Emirates - Death Penalty

The Christian Bible and the Homosexual:

The Bible does not speak of gays. Nor does it speak of the earth orbiting the sun. Sexual identity was not a concept of biblical times.
It speaks of homosexual acts only when they are part of sacred prostitution, idolatry, promiscuity, seducing children, rape, or violating hospitality. It condemns all such acts, whether heterosexual, homosexual, or having nothing to do with sex.
Of the thousands and hundreds of words, pages, stories, laws, and commandments in the Bible, very few deal with homosexual acts.

Dr. Neil Whitehead is a research scientist and biochemist from New Zealand and is his wife Briar Whitehead is a writer. Dr. Whitehead coauthored a book with with his wife entitled My Genes Made Me Do it - a scientific look at sexual orientation which argues that there is no genetic determinism in regards to homosexuality (homosexuals are "not born that way") and that there is abundant documentation that individuals are able to leave homosexuality and become heterosexuals.

Hardest Choice?

The hardest choice involves letting go of someone you adore.

Best friend.

One of the best friends you ever have is your own conscience.

"...it works like an inward monitor, similar to an alarm. Don't ignore it, respect it"

Money

Having Money....

(A) increase your Security

or

(B) increase your Fears

Patience helps us understand those things that Passion can't Process...

"So the doubts are clarified and from there you can decide assertively.."

What do you think?

Power

Power has the ability to help and at the same time the ability to harm.

"The use of power." -Infact Control makes Power.

Dialogue

A dialogue means listening and understanding, not proving and convincing


"To understand and to be understood is the source of unity between two people"

Valentine's Day

"To-morrow is Saint Valentine's day,

All in the morning betime,

And I a maid at your window,

To be your Valentine.

Then up he rose, and donn'd his clothes,

And dupp'd the chamber-door;

Let in the maid, that out a maidNever departed more."

(William Shakespeare, Hamlet, Act IV, Scene 5)

why is valentine's day only one day, we give gifts, flowers, and cakes

I would be happy if everyday would be a valentine's day

Why should we wait for this ONE day to tell our partner that we love them and give them gifts?

I am against this one day love.

The day you accept someone to become part of your life then from that day only you should be taking care of that part. Not only in Valentine's Day that you will remember the person and cherish him/her with love, attention, care and gifts.

Confidence!

confidence is admired by others if we succeed otherwise it becomes overconfidence...

Confidence is very important however Overconfidence ruin everything...

Quarelling couples

Women are complicated..

"They are meant to be loved and not understood"....as someone said. The more you try to understand them the more you tend to forget yourself. You will never be able to know what there is in their heart.

But I believe men are complicated too..

" Try to understand them and you are bound to go mad" ...as someone again said. How much you may believe that you know them but the fact remain that they are and will always be an alien to you.

However what I found during my research is amazing.

Quarrelling couples live longer:

London: Having a blazing row with your spouse could be the secret to a long life. A study has shown that a good fight with your other half may be good for your health.
Husbands and wives who bury their differences and keep the anger inside are likely to die earlier than those who let the sparks fly, researchers found. This is because trying to resolve conflict — even in a heated manner — is better for your health than bottling up tension, they argue.

During the study, 192 couples — differentiated into four categories — were kept under observation for over 17 years. The first category consisted of couples where both partners communicated their anger, the second of couples where the husband showed anger while the wife suppressed it, the third comprised couples where only the wife showed anger and the fourth where both parties suppressed it.

It was found that during the period of study death was twice as likely in the fourth group as compared to the chances of other three.
The results held good even when other factors such as age, smoking, weight, blood pressure, bronchial problems and cardiovascular risk were taken into account.

"When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict. Usually nobody is trained to do this. The key matter is, when the conflict happens, how do you resolve it," Ernest Harburg, professor emeritus at the University of Michigan School of Public Health, which conducted the study, was quoted by Daily Mail as saying.
"When you don't, if you bury your anger, and you brood on it and you resent the other person or the attacker, and you don't try to resolve the problem, then you're in trouble," he said.

Professor Harburg stressed that the preliminary figures are small, and that researchers are now collecting follow-up data spread over 30 years.

Remember..

I'm not afraid about the 10 000 moves you practiced one time..

But I'm afraid about the one move you practiced for 10 000 times....

Every person like to be praised and appreciated

"Whether they show it or not, but deep inside they feel good about it.. " ;-)

I was reading a book and i came across something which is very interesting..

Some people say that they are very practical but does praising or appreciating make someone them emotional??

Every one like to be praised or appreciated because somewhere they believe that they are worth it and why not as far as i understand every person is unique.." What I have You don't have and What You have I don't have..." So every one is special and equal.

Some say that they don't like all these stuffs..but I know that somewhere deep inside they are waiting for people or someone special to praise them or appreciate them.

Appreciation should not be asked but it is received without any invitation. So if you think someone deserve praises or appreciation then don't hesitate but cease the opportunity to tell them that they worth a lot..

Human Behaviour

I fail to understand the split in human behaviour. Sometimes they behave differently forcing you to think if it is the same that you were expecting.

Is it possible that everything one is, does, and experiences is a function of the brain, just as Emily Dickinson suggested nearly one hundred and fifty years ago? Could it be that one is who one is because of what one's brain is? And that becoming something different means changing the brain? If so, what are the implications of this? Do we lose something, or is the brain actually big enough, as Dickinson suggested, to contain everything? If so, what might we be able to do that has never before been possible? What are the risks, the gains, the new landscapes which would be opened to explore?

Human behavior is the collection of behaviors exhibited by human beings and influenced by culture, attitudes, emotions, values, ethics, authority, rapport, hypnosis, persuasion, coercion and/or genetics

However as simple human being I better talk simply of what affect us.

For Example: In a couple Behaviour is as much essential as it is one of the core bases on which a relation is founded. I believe if each of the partner behave according to the norms in a couple then no negative aspect shall exist.

Pornography

Pornography or porn is the explicit depiction of sexual subject matter with the sole intention of sexually exciting the viewer.

Pornography industry, in an “almost” not safe for work format. It is staggering how much actual money flows through porn and how many people are involved in the industry:

89% of porn is created in the U.S.

$2.84 billion in revenue was generated from U.S. porn sites in 2006

$89/second is spent on porn

72% of porn viewers are men

260 new porn sites go online daily

The pornography industry is larger than the revenues of the top technology companies combined: Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo!, Apple

Feelings..how's strange!

I believe taking care of someone too much is not good. Sometimes you forget that you got a life for yourself and need to take care of that too...

We should always expect the unexpected. We expect understanding, maturity, responsibility and consideration from the other partner but how discouraged we are when all these are not acquired...So if we care for a person why do we wait for that person to care for us...

However being human we have the tendency to wait for the better..Today I have realised that instead of waiting for the better I should move with my life, move without expecting something, move ahead with my sole 'Me', move alone...

And if that person wants to walk with you then don't look behind but look beside and if the person is not found then continue to walk without any regret and if that person is found beside you then don't haste in holding hands..be brave to walk alone..who knows you might get down the bus...

Believing you are right does not mean that the other person thinks the same. So controversy will always exist. Never count on that person..

Animals!

Should human beings be allowed to use other animals as objects of sport and entertainment..horse race, circus, zoo...

There are too much trafficking nowadays. The question is whether Fashion/entertainment are more essential or the lives of these animals!!!

Pregnancy... a beautiful moment....

The embryonic disk has become thicker and oval in shape, coiled up because the outermost layer, the ectoderm, has developed faster than the endoderm. One end of it has swollen to form the brain, and the other corresponds to the coccyx. Between the two, the neural groove will form the central nervous system.

The arm buds and then the leg buds quickly develop into limb segments and two weeks later the hands and spatula-shaped feet arise at the limb extremities. Later on, i.e. during the second half of this month, the fingers separate and acquire a tapered aspect while the limbs continue to grow longer. The knee, ankle, elbow and wrist joints also form.

In the brain, cells are multiplying and will continue to multiply until the 16th week of pregnancy, (about 3 and a half months) when several billion neurons will be produced, and at certain times, almost 250,000 per minute.

The placental membrane allows exchanges to occur more freely between mother and fetus. The fetus grows, becomes more human-looking and tends to become more independent. The placenta: a more permeable barrier.

The head, which is more prominent than the body at the beginning of the Second Month, continues to grow. The large protruding forehead takes up half of the face. The outline of the chin and neck form and separate from the trunk. The rounded protrusion of the eyes appears as a pigmented black spot, without eyelids, and connected to the brain by the optic stalk which later becomes the optic nerve. The buds for the deciduous or milk teeth form.

The fetus has become a small, vigorous being and can clench his fists and grip an object since he now possesses the grasping reflex. He now moves every day and manifests his presence so that if the mother no longer feels him move at any time during a 24 hour period, she should not hesitate to call her physician; however, the fetus may remain immobile for a few hours while sleeping.

During the 7th month, the fetus who is growing and gaining weight takes up more and more room and there is less amniotic fluid. It is during these last three months of terms that the fetus grows the most; his weight triples between six and nine months of pregnancy.

Prenatal learning and memorization of sounds may exist. Many experiments have been conducted over the last few years in an effort to determine more precisely the hearing ability of the fetus in utero. What does the fetus hear? And can the fetus remember sounds heard during intrauterine development?

During the last month of pregnancy, you should visit your physician weekly. In addition to sleep disturbances, you may experience a feeling of major lassitude and impairment due to the increasing size of the fetus. You are prepared for childbirth and you impatiently wait for the first signs of labor.

Euthanasia

Autonomy is defined as the "the right of self government or personal freedom"1. Every person has the right to make personal and private decisions about their own lives defined in the American Constitution as "the right to privacy". Since death is the most personal of all things, the individual should have the right to dictate when they die and in what circumstances they do so.
To deny people the choice of death by active euthanasia is to force them to do something that is against their will and may well prolong their suffering, and therefore lose human dignity and decency. Death should be with dignity but modern medicine has prevented nature running its natural course. Not allowing a patient to end their life with dignity and free from pain is inhuman and leads to an increase in the callousness of society and a development of a disregard for the quality of life in the face of a choice with quantity of life.

Those against euthanasia claim that patients are often too affected by their illness to make adequate decisions about their future, but this denies them their true autonomy because every decision that is made regardless of the context is always influenced by internal and external factors.
If "society recognises the autonomy of individuals by granting them the right to pursue their views about the good life and create their own lives" then the logical consequence is to allow people to decide their own death.

Euthanasia allows patients death with dignity because continuing to live can inflict more problems, on both the patient having to cope with the pain and indignity of a prolonged death, and the family because it is distressing having to witness the gradual decline of a loved one.
With terminal illness there are two choices: let the disease run its course, or allow the inevitable to death to come sooner. The question is which one is of more benefit to the patient and acts in their best interests? Death is the lesser of two evils with regards to pain and suffering for 2 reasons:
The patient is prevented from dying painfully and slowly by ending it quickly and painfully.
The best interests of the patient are granted when the doctor allows and respects their autonomy
The problem is that there is no definitive point at which it can be said that life becomes too burdensome for an individual. To cope with this society can allow the withdrawal of treatment from individuals when it is deemed futile but this only serves to prolong the agony and may increase the suffering of the patient. The legalisation of euthanasia would allow the introduction of a quick and easy death when all other medical interventions are futile and is deemed to beneficent to the patient. Since one of the main aims of medicine is to relieve suffering, it is surely a medical duty to relieve the suffering of a patient through death.

Euthanasia allows the greatest good for the greatest number of people because:
The patient’s suffering is removed
The family can grieve properly
Medical staff can avoid grief and stress
The very high costs of terminal care for the patient are removed

Will it end?

Where are we heading?

Obama swearing in ceremony is awaited with bated death!

"President–elect Barack Obama is being considered as a harbinger of prosperity, peace & economic stability not only for America but for the world community as well.

This has put Obama under great pressure as he is well aware of the expectations that Americans have on him. Being the President of America is a great responsibility and therefore Obama has to tread the path with great caution & a lot of patience.

The 8 years of Bush’s regime was marred with incompetence. Some of his decisions did more harm than good for America. The greatest example is the Iraq war. Nobody would argue against it because it was really stupidity on the part of George Bush to send his troops to Iraq when it was evident that Saddam Hussein had no hand in the Sept 9/11 attack.

His decision divided the world community, which otherwise was one when it came to terrorism. The financial crisis was the last straw that ended the Bush era. After becoming the President, Obama has several issues to resolve.

The first one is the American troops fighting it out in the Iraqi terrains. The public expects him to withdraw the troops from Iraq unconditionally. Then there is the global economic crisis which has left most Americans jobless. He has promised to put an end to outsourcing.

And the last but not the least is the issue of Islamic terrorism. It’s to be seen howz Obama going to resolve these burning issues? Let’s see how may promises are fulfilled."

True?

We can live without religion and meditation but we cannot survive without human affection

Gaza

To terminate Terrorists, "BOMBARD" them with knowledge.

"Weapons can't terminate ideologies"

War on Gaza!!!

6 Aug 2005 ... As WND reported, Hamas last month announced on its website after Israel's Gaza withdrawal the group will begin the next phase of its war.

4 Feb 2007 ... Opinion: Gaza clashes are over values, way of life and future Palestinian identity.(Israel Opinions)

14 Dec 2008 ... The new drug overtaking the Gaza Strip doesn't stimulate hallucinations or give endurance at the dance club. It merely chills you out, ...(msnbc.com)

30 Dec 2008 ... There can be no justification for Hamas’s attacks or its virulent rejectionism. But others must also take responsibility for the current ...(NYTimes.com)

1 Jan 2009 ... On the Israeli war in Gaza. Authored by: clore on Friday, January 02 2009 @ 07: 43 AM CST. "Anarchist communist analysis from Syria" ...(Infoshop News)

4 Jan 2009 ... Government in Jerusalem spent months laying groundwork at home and abroad for assault.

War is part of the landscape in Gaza. Israel pounds northern Gaza to deter Palestinian militants from continuing to launch Qassam rockets into Israel.(Washingpost.com)

The International Crisis Group is an independent, non-profit, non-governmental organisation committed to preventing and resolving deadly conflict.(B26 ending the war in Gaza)

So is the war in Gaza hopeless? Not really. The God of Abraham did promise peace will eventually be restored not only in Gaza but all the way from Egypt ..(BBC News)

Gaza; Jan 8 2009. UNRWA says it has lost all confidence in... Gaza; Jan 8 2009 ... Death toll in Gaza rises to 763 after 50...

Jan 2009 ... Hamas: We will win war in Gaza. Hamas political deputy sets out conditions for a ceasefire with ... Watch our coverage of the war on Gaza ...(Al Jazeera).

Humanity

Denying access to essential medecines is a crime against humanity.

"Statistic said Over 2 billion people do not have any assistance on health care"