Invest in your health - the best investment ever!!
"I notice people are more concerned with their possessions, insuring them, looking after their new cars, new toys, yet do nothing for the No 1 most important thing in their life - their body. Once we lose our health it's gone, not replaceable, possessions are!"
It seems to be a part of human nature for us to want to control situations in our lives and the lives of others. After all, we want to be helpful, to help others by making sure that situations work out well for all involved. And sometimes it seems to us that the only way that we can make things turn out okay is by taking over and controlling that situation ourselves.
I see parents do it with their kids in college: by calling their kid every day and "checking in on them," they make their presenceand their expectations--constantly clear. That's supposed to "motivate" the kid. Other parents try to give advice on every topic under the sun to their kids, fully expecting the children to follow that advice to the letter. This is called micromanaging, though, and it's usually more indicative of the parent's fear of failing the other person than it is of the kid's need for such constant input.
We simply fear being out of control. We fear watching things and events spiral out of control, harming us and those people we love. We fear facing a situation in which we have no control, and we fear situations reaching that point, so we try to "make sure" that nothing in our lives ever gets that far.
This fear, though, comes from a lack of confidence or faith in life and in God, whatever you perceive God to be. Life has been going on for many, many years without our input, and it's been going along fine. In fact, it seems clear that life has a harder time doing its thing the more we interfere with it. We're not willing to let the river flow as it will--we want to make sure that we control the amount of water that's flowing, the direction in which it flows, and when it stops and starts flowing. If we can do that, we can make sure that the river never will overflow its banks, and we can be sure that no one will be hurt by the river.
Trying to control life is a losing battle from the beginning. It's important that we step back and see whether our influence (not control) may be helpful or useful in a given situation, but if we constantly try to make sure that everything turns out fine, we will fail time and time again. Isn't it important to use our strength and power in situations in which we truly do have influence (in our jobs and relationships, for example, focused on our own actions) rather than in ways that are doomed to be wastes of that energy?
The laws of karma and reincarnation are man made and wretched. If you travel to places in the world where people truly believe, you will find the true nature of it and how it holds people in it's grip. Take for example a person that has caused much destruction - Hitler, for example, as his name always comes up. Karma and reincarnation teaches that upon his death, the bad karma he accumulated goes on into another life but the recipient has no idea of the weight they are carrying. Hitler's soul could be reincarnated into another person, animal or insect. There are some people that wear mouth and nose coverings to avoid breathing someone in. (I'm not joking.) In countries where karma rules the day and homeless children roam the street, other citizens do nothing to help them. Not because they are cruel but because the child has accumulated bad karma and they believe the sooner the child dies he can begin again. I saw a news article a few years back about a heartbroken mother that had lost her 13 year son to an early death. Just after the funeral, an iguana walked into her home. The photo showed her with tears rolling down her face as she held it - because she was convinced it was her son reincarnated. I strongly suggest the book by Ravi Zacharais called "Jesus Among Other Gods". He was raised in India and has a clear understanding of these things - and he takes strong offense to the tripe dished out by Deepak Chopra.
Betrayal, a form of deception. If this trust is betrayed, at its worst, the individual can suffer psychological betrayal trauma. Betrayal trauma has symptoms similar to post traumatic stress disorder, although the element of amnesia and dissociation is likely to be greater. SHATTERED, furious, resentful, heartbroken, numb, humiliated, rejected, hurt, and NOT SAFE– these are just some of the feelings we experience when we’ve been betrayed. Unfortunately, betrayals appear to be on the rise. It helps to know that we are not alone as broken trust is a universal experience. The human need to belong and be part of a relationship makes us open and therefore vulnerable to these painful emotions.
Many people hear the word, "betrayal", and think of infidelity, yet the experience is actually much broader. Yes, the hurt feelings can result from a love betrayal, but the same symptoms can also be triggered by an unfaithful coworker or boss; betrayal in a friendship; disloyalty from a workplace, community, even country; the earth appearing to turn on us; or what is sometimes described as the ultimate betrayal - a loss of trust or faith in our relationship with “something bigger, something spiritual”. Regardless of the source, the emotional distress is often severe.
A friend knowingly breaks a confidence that causes hurt and loss of reputation; this is betrayal. A spouse professes love and loyalty while involved in an emotional affair outside the marriage; this is betrayal. A boss or organization pretends to be honest and fair while manipulating employees to exploit their talents; this is betrayal.
What do these examples of broken trust have in common?
· Personal and/or cultural expectations (understood by the betrayed as “The Truth”) are present.
· Based on these expectations, whole-hearted loyalty is given to another.
· "The Truth" is shattered; often due to someone making choices despite potential, major damage to the relationship.
· Shock and intense hurt feelings inevitably result.
A great marriage is not when the"perfect couple" comes together
It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.
A daily dose of four kisses, three cuddles and one "I love you" may help keep a relationship alive, a survey has revealed.
Partners should also have a two-year age gap, share two hobbies and have sex three times a week, the Confetti.co.uk poll found.
Other secrets to a lasting liaison include two romantic meals a month, three nights of the week cuddling on the sofa together, regular contact, two surprise weekends away every year, one annual foreign holiday and two UK breaks, says The Daily Telegraph.
Researchers also found that two separate nights out with friends a month are advised to ensure some independence, and that the longest lasting relationships involve people who met through friends and who married after being together for three-and-a-half years.More than 3,000 married adults took part in the poll, which found that a man should ideally be two years and three months older than his partner.
John M. Gottman, a researcher, said his team found that there basically are three types of stable marriages.
The first is a husband and wife who routinely avoids conflict. When a difference of opinion arises, said Gottman, "they will never argue. They will listen to the other, but will not try to persuade." Such marriages, which he calls the "avoiders," may be unemotional and distant, but they endure.
A second type is a volatile relationship "like two lawyers in a courtroom," said Gottman. "They can argue at the drop of a hat. They are the Bickersons," he said. Such marriages tend to last even though there are frequent and impassioned arguments.
The third type of stable marriage Gottman calls the "validating" couple. They listen to each other, respect the other's opinion and only occasionally argue. "They pick the issues they fight about," he said.
Trouble in marriages comes when the couples are a mix of personalities that do not mesh in resolving conflicts. For instance, a husband who is a volatile arguer married to a wife who is an "avoider", or one who flees from disagreement, may be in marital trouble, he said.
Everyone will have their share of discouragement at some point in their lifetime.
Discouragement happens in all areas of life. An employee puts in his best to ensure his department achieves success, only to get a damaging response instead of a good appraisal from his superior. A woman’s marriage dreams end when her husband is unfaithful. She truly feels the pangs of discouragement. A couple suffers their second miscarriage while trying to create a family. These people all deal with discouragement differently, but some may become so discouraged, so distressed and as a result may attempt to take their own lives.
The root word of discouragement is courage so it should only make sense that the feelings associated with failure and rejection often try to deal a blow to your inner source of courage. Unfortunately, these emotions can cripple you to the point where you avoid taking small risks that have huge potential rewards.Life is full of failures, rejection and more than a fair share of discouragement. I believe that the difference in how persistent people are often comes down to how they handle the discouragement that comes from the same situation. While some people can immediately brush themselves off, others can enter a negative cycle of thoughts that persists for weeks, months or even years.
"Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. "Dale Carnegie
"Defeat should never be a source of discouragement, but rather a fresh stimulus." Bishop Robert South
Homosexuality refers to sexual behavior or attraction between people of the same sex or to homosexual orientation . As a sexual orientation , homosexuality refers to "having sexual and romantic attraction primarily or exclusively to members of one’s own sex"
Many lesbians and gay men form durable relationships. For example, survey data indicate that between 18% and 28% of gay couples and between 8% and 21% of lesbian couples in the U.S. have lived together 10 or more years.
In many cultures, homosexual people are frequently subject to prejudice and discrimination. Like many other minority groups that are the objects of prejudice, they are also subject to stereotyping. Gay men are seen as effeminate and fashionable, often identified with a lisp or a female-like tone and lilt.
Research suggests they develop enduring romantic relationships. Gay men are also often alleged as having pedophilic tendencies and more likely to commit child sexual abuse than the heterosexual male population, a view rejected by mainstream psychiatric groups and contradicted by research.
Claims that there is scientific evidence to support an association between being gay and being a pedophile are based on misuses of those terms and misrepresentation of the actual evidence. Lesbians are seen as butch, and sometimes "man-haters" or radical feminists.
The Bible does not speak of gays. Nor does it speak of the earth orbiting the sun. Sexual identity was not a concept of biblical times. It speaks of homosexual acts only when they are part of sacred prostitution, idolatry, promiscuity, seducing children, rape, or violating hospitality. It condemns all such acts, whether heterosexual, homosexual, or having nothing to do with sex. Of the thousands and hundreds of words, pages, stories, laws, and commandments in the Bible, very few deal with homosexual acts.
Dr. Neil Whitehead is a research scientist and biochemist from New Zealand and is his wife Briar Whitehead is a writer. Dr. Whitehead coauthored a book with with his wife entitled My Genes Made Me Do it - a scientific look at sexual orientation which argues that there is no genetic determinism in regards to homosexuality (homosexuals are "not born that way") and that there is abundant documentation that individuals are able to leave homosexuality and become heterosexuals.
Let in the maid, that out a maidNever departed more."
(William Shakespeare, Hamlet, Act IV, Scene 5)
why is valentine's day only one day, we give gifts, flowers, and cakes
I would be happy if everyday would be a valentine's day
Why should we wait for this ONE day to tell our partner that we love them and give them gifts?
I am against this one day love.
The day you accept someone to become part of your life then from that day only you should be taking care of that part. Not only in Valentine's Day that you will remember the person and cherish him/her with love, attention, care and gifts.
"They are meant to be loved and not understood"....as someone said. The more you try to understand them the more you tend to forget yourself. You will never be able to know what there is in their heart.
But I believe men are complicated too..
" Try to understand them and you are bound to go mad"...as someone again said. How much you may believe that you know them but the fact remain that they are and will always be an alien to you.
However what I found during my research is amazing.
Quarrelling couples live longer:
London: Having a blazing row with your spouse could be the secret to a long life. A study has shown that a good fight with your other half may be good for your health. Husbands and wives who bury their differences and keep the anger inside are likely to die earlier than those who let the sparks fly, researchers found. This is because trying to resolve conflict — even in a heated manner — is better for your health than bottling up tension, they argue.
During the study, 192 couples — differentiated into four categories — were kept under observation for over 17 years. The first category consisted of couples where both partners communicated their anger, the second of couples where the husband showed anger while the wife suppressed it, the third comprised couples where only the wife showed anger and the fourth where both parties suppressed it.
It was found that during the period of study death was twice as likely in the fourth group as compared to the chances of other three. The results held good even when other factors such as age, smoking, weight, blood pressure, bronchial problems and cardiovascular risk were taken into account.
"When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict. Usually nobody is trained to do this. The key matter is, when the conflict happens, how do you resolve it," Ernest Harburg, professor emeritus at the University of Michigan School of Public Health, which conducted the study, was quoted by Daily Mail as saying. "When you don't, if you bury your anger, and you brood on it and you resent the other person or the attacker, and you don't try to resolve the problem, then you're in trouble," he said.
Professor Harburg stressed that the preliminary figures are small, and that researchers are now collecting follow-up data spread over 30 years.