A dialogue means listening and understanding, not proving and convincing "To understand and to be understood is the source of unity between two people"
Good subject. In a couple you have to both listen and understand however unluckily sometimes you have to prove and convince so all of these existed and will always exist.
yes you are right.the unity between two people is the start with understanding.you have to understand someone before being sure if you can love the person.
One gains knowledge through context (experiences) and understanding. When one has context, one can weave the various relationships of the experiences. The greater the context, the greater the variety of experiences that one is able to pull from.
The greater one understands the subject matter, the more one is able to weave past experiences (context) into new knowledge by absorbing, doing, interacting, and reflecting.
"Each human emotion mobilizes the mind and body to meet one of the challenges of living and reproducing in the cognitive niche. Some challenges are posed by physical things, and the emotions that deal with them, like disgust, fear, and appreciation of natural beauty work in straightforward ways. Others are posed by people. The problem in dealing with people is that people can deal back. The emotions that evolved in response to other people's emotions, like anger, gratitude, shame, and romantic love, are played on a complicated chessboard, and they spawn the passion and intrigue that misleads the Romantic" Steven Pinker - How the Mind Works.So returning to your question then obviously human being need both to stay with someone alike him.
Although the business of perceiving self-evident truth seems simple enough, in practice it is far from simple. The human brain just does not process information analytically. Mind you, we think we do, and that's half the problem. For many people it is not "I think and therefore I am", rather, "I think and therefore it's true." So, when it comes to understanding what motivates us to behave the way we do, the self-evident is far from evident.
The brain is the mind is the brain. One hundred billion nerve cells, give or take, none of which individually has the capacity to feel or to reason, yet together generating consciousness. For about 400 years, following the ideas of French philosopher René Descartes, those who thought about its nature considered the mind related to the body, but separate from it. In this model—often called “dualism” or the mind-body problem—the mind was “immaterial,” not anchored in anything physical. Today neuroscientists are finding abundant evidence . . . that separating mind from brain makes no sense. Nobel Prize-winning psychiatrist-neuroscientist Eric Kandel stated it directly in a watershed paper published in 1998: “All mental processes, even the most complex psychological processes, derive from operations of the brain.”
Human beings are like that.Sometimes they feel good about something and the other time they feel despised about the same thing.
In this tender age you write so beautifully.Keep it up.Can you give me your contact details?I wish to know more about you.Thank you.And keep writting.
If two people want to stay together then what you said should be taken into consideration. They should understand each other first to be able to cope or adjust with each other.Couples being together for two or three years are more likely to tell you.They are together because they understand each other and love automatically grows between them.These people are more likely to stay together for many and many years.
They come to understand when their partner are happy or when they are angry.They even learn how to adjust in these circumstances.These couples are more likely to be together as I said above.
They grow,love,get angry,make fun,have sex in full compatibility because they understand each other.
Ever heard of a couple who talks about sex just after a long discussion or a long arguments? These couples give more importance to their relationship than quarels.They just want to reconcile.
Being a psychologist I would say two complete years is enough to know if the person you are with is compatible with you or not.Then the years to follow should be focussed on how to grow with this relationship.Therefore understanding is one of the most important factor.
Thank you very much for all the opinions. It encourages me to go further. All opinions are respected here so feel free to post your comments Because Your Opinion Matters...
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Yeah, To understand is a powerful as to convince,
Understanding is beyond love.
Love is the only source of living.
But if you don't understand your partner i don't think love is enough to build up a relationship.
Love is the true source,if two people don't love each other then no relationship.
What the use of loving someone when you can never understand him/her?
love comes with everything including understanding and convincing or compromising.
We are talking about understanding and comparing if it is better than having a loved one without understanding?
You are confusing yourself go and read the post again.
You better read what you write.
Its not your problem.
Then mind your business.
Good subject. In a couple you have to both listen and understand however unluckily sometimes you have to prove and convince so all of these existed and will always exist.
Why do we have to prove to others when we know we are right?
Neither they understand us nor do they listen to us.
yes you are right.the unity between two people is the start with understanding.you have to understand someone before being sure if you can love the person.
One gains knowledge through context (experiences) and understanding.
When one has context, one can weave the various relationships of the experiences. The greater the context, the greater the variety of experiences that one is able to pull from.
The greater one understands the subject matter, the more one is able to weave past experiences (context) into new knowledge by absorbing, doing, interacting, and reflecting.
"Each human emotion mobilizes the mind and body to meet one of the challenges of living and reproducing in the cognitive niche. Some challenges are posed by physical things, and the emotions that deal with them, like disgust, fear, and appreciation of natural beauty work in straightforward ways. Others are posed by people. The problem in dealing with people is that people can deal back. The emotions that evolved in response to other people's emotions, like anger, gratitude, shame, and romantic love, are played on a complicated chessboard, and they spawn the passion and intrigue that misleads the Romantic" Steven Pinker - How the Mind Works.So returning to your question then obviously human being need both to stay with someone alike him.
Good Subject.
Let me know if I can contact you.
Although the business of perceiving self-evident truth seems simple enough, in practice it is far from simple. The human brain just does not process information analytically. Mind you, we think we do, and that's half the problem. For many people it is not "I think and therefore I am", rather, "I think and therefore it's true." So, when it comes to understanding what motivates us to behave the way we do, the self-evident is far from evident.
The brain is the mind is the brain. One hundred billion nerve cells, give or take, none of which individually has the capacity to feel or to reason, yet together generating consciousness. For about 400 years, following the ideas of French philosopher René Descartes, those who thought about its nature considered the mind related to the body, but separate from it. In this model—often called “dualism” or the mind-body problem—the mind was “immaterial,” not anchored in anything physical. Today neuroscientists are finding abundant evidence . . . that separating mind from brain makes no sense. Nobel Prize-winning psychiatrist-neuroscientist Eric Kandel stated it directly in a watershed paper published in 1998: “All mental processes, even the most complex psychological processes, derive from operations of the brain.”
Human beings are like that.Sometimes they feel good about something and the other time they feel despised about the same thing.
In this tender age you write so beautifully.Keep it up.Can you give me your contact details?I wish to know more about you.Thank you.And keep writting.
Good.And I agree to your saying.
If two people want to stay together then what you said should be taken into consideration. They should understand each other first to be able to cope or adjust with each other.Couples being together for two or three years are more likely to tell you.They are together because they understand each other and love automatically grows between them.These people are more likely to stay together for many and many years.
They come to understand when their partner are happy or when they are angry.They even learn how to adjust in these circumstances.These couples are more likely to be together as I said above.
They grow,love,get angry,make fun,have sex in full compatibility because they understand each other.
Ever heard of a couple who talks about sex just after a long discussion or a long arguments? These couples give more importance to their relationship than quarels.They just want to reconcile.
Being a psychologist I would say two complete years is enough to know if the person you are with is compatible with you or not.Then the years to follow should be focussed on how to grow with this relationship.Therefore understanding is one of the most important factor.
Thank you very much for all the opinions. It encourages me to go further. All opinions are respected here so feel free to post your comments Because Your Opinion Matters...
love comes with everything including understanding and convincing or compromising.
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